autumn-and-eve:

The queer community’s first fights were fought by trans women and AMAB gender non-conforming people and paid for by queer people of color, never forget that.

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some hipster bullshit dont read omg

eddie furlong grew up to be kind of puffy looking

no1curr

great lakes

into my mouf

shar pei

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nonaraptor:

don’t look in a woman’s bag to see if there’s an unread book in it. how can you tell it’s unread anyway, get your nose out of her bag seriously before you discover that she keeps a mousetrap in there for people like you.

stop looking in her coffee cup, also don’t be so interested in what she’s drinking, whether it’s got milk or non-dairy creamer (which tastes like crap most of the time anyway) in it.

don’t sit down next to her or opposite her unless there are no other free seats available
—the rules are: sit at a table/area that no one else is already at if there is one free. if there isn’t, ask politely if anyone is sitting (here) before you sit down at a table someone else is at. after that, DON’T make conversation if they’re reading. drink your drink, eat your food if applicable, read your own damn book if applicable, don’t be a public nuisance.

don’t ask them if they like the book - either they do which is why they’re reading it, or they have to read it for a class or something and either way they probably don’t want to talk about it.

don’t buy her another drink. she probably doesn’t want it, or at least doesn’t want the social obligation that is seen as customary when someone buys you a drink (and I’m not talking about sex, I’m talking about how you’re meant to be nice to them for buying it, and talk to them or whatever. sometimes people just do not want to be social okay). don’t put her in the position of having to weigh up if she can ignore you or if she has to pay attention to you because you’ll cause a scene if she doesn’t. don’t make her have to choose whether to leave ASAP because you’re going to be a douche, or whether she’ll have to be nice to you because people will think she’s so rude otherwise.

don’t start telling her your feels on books, and don’t ask her about hers. don’t assume she’s lying about her understanding of books. don’t lie to her. don’t try to pretend you know everything.
just leave her the fuck alone.

you have no guarantee that she wants your attention.
you are making it awkward by forcing contact.
stop it.
bugger off.
thanks.

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partysoft:

cheatthis:

slattern:

do you ever just reminisce about your childhood

and think to yourself

‘fuck how did I not realize sooner that I was totally gay.’

all the time omfg

how did everyone not realize sooner that I was totally gay

true story: when I was 11, my best friend and I vowed we would never get married and instead would move to Alaska together so I could race sled dogs and she would cook macaroni and cheese for dinner.

how did I not know

(whichbeing addressing bigotry in our communities), there’s something I’ve been meaning to say.

lately, more and more transphobic feminists have been popping out of the woodwork on tumblr. if you hold any sort of shitty beliefs about trans people- especially trans women- please unfollow me.

one of the things I feel is very important for me to do is to support and care for other women. I’d rather not be followed by people who don’t make an effort to do that- including by failing to support trans women as women.

missvoltairine:

adventuresinsexuality:

suzy-x:

Yeah! This is my issue with straight folks coming up with their own “queer” identities based on the way they practice HETEROSEXUAL relationships. Hetero “demisexuals,” GTFO of Queer, and for chrissakes try to understand that some spaces are just not for you.

i wasn’t aware that the queer community, which preaches acceptance and belonging beyond any other community i’ve seen, is suddenly excluding people from the name just because they aren’t “queer enough”. are you going to turn an aromantic asexual away from labeling themselves as something other than heterosexual even though they’re not in any sense of the term straight? in case you were wondering, a demisexual IS for all intents and purposes asexual; it’s a rarity for them to experience sexual attraction at all, even with the emotional bond that is characteristic of their sexuality. you’re doing the same fucking thing with demis that homophobic people do with pushing away homosexuality because it’s “wrong”, just because they don’t fit into your normative system. get over yourself. 

Queer women are being “just like homophobes”

ok let’s play this game

what have homophobes done to me, in the course of my life:

-constant daily harassment growing up and general occasional harassment continuing throughout my adult life

-invocations to suicide, etc

-assault on numerous occasions

-pepper spray bombing

-trying to remove me from my family as a child

-trying to remove my siblings from my family

-bomb threats to my place of employment (which was firebombed multiple times, by homophobes, before I worked there)

-vandalism, destruction of property

what have I done to heteroromantic asexuals and demisexuals:

-told them it’s inappropriate for them to use the word “queer” to self-identify

-attempted to explain why people who are stigmatized as being sluts feel wary of the idea that someone who has sex well within a socially accepted framework is oppressed by “sexual privilege”

shit you guys

if you think this is at all on par with what homophobes do

it only goes to how truly divorced you are from the reality of what it means to be queer.

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galesofnovember:

fuckyeahsexeducation:

transgenderstudentlife:

thambos:

maiamorgan:

No more of the following:

• LGBT
• LGBTQ
• LGBTQIAP
• QUILTBAG
• GLBT

It is now GSM. Gender and Sexuality Minority. 

Got it? Ok. Good. Carry on.

Except that GSM is an umbrella INCLUDING LGBTQ communities.

For example, GSM includes kink, polyamory, polygamy, etc. People in those communities can still benefit huuuugely from straight privilege and be homophobic. Yeah, LGBQ people can benefit from cis privilege and be transphobic, but likewise many trans people can benefit from straight privilege (possibly not as much as a cis person due to perception and passing privilege) and be homophobic.

You can’t just replace acronyms with each other when they don’t mean the same thing. Replacements need to mean the same thing.

Bolded for emphasis on distinctions of GSM

I like using GSM just because so many orientations are left out of any of the others. I mean, Pansexual, Polysexual, Multisexual, Asexual, Demisexual, Grey-A, and Queer people can be cissexist, Genderqueer, genderneutral, or other gendervariants can be heterosexist. Also Lesbian, Gay, Asexual, Demisexual, and Grey-A people can be monosexist. There’s prejudice within the community, everyone knows that. Sure, other gender and sexual minorities might not be part of the “community” but if the “community” leaves out so many people how is it a good community?

I will seriously die, and/or be dragged off on a sled to Sibera,  screaming defiance before I will ever willingly be a part of a “community” that is “open” to asexuals or demi-sexuals or straight kinky people or straight poly people or anyone who, with a straight face, identifies as “polysexual” or unironically uses the acronym “quiltbag”

also how exactly is broadening the LGBTQ community to include literally everyone the answer to homophobia and transphobia within the community

stay with me here but I’ve got this idea, it’s kind of out there but I think it might work: we could instead address bigotry where we see it in our community.